Welcome back to Part 5/5 on crafting a remarkable Post50 Life. We explored Geography of Place, Freedom and Career Arc Extension. Today we focus on Personal Intimacy & Health to reveal that a strong social architecture is the nucleus of a long, productive and healthy life.
“So,” I say to my husband as we enjoy sunset on the terrace of our newly constructed Panhandle dream home.
After two months in our chosen and well-loved ‘Geography of Place,’ we can count using one index finger the number of people we can call ‘friend’ – our architect.
“How many friends have you made this week?” I inquire.
The question lacks sweetness. We’d moved to a place where we knew no one. We needed friends and finding them was more effort than we’d remembered.
Soon we’d be on a corner with a sign, “Will you be our friend?” or scouting the produce section of Piggly Wiggly for foodies to be dinner guests.
Just because I’m more extroverted doesn’t mean my husband is off the hook. “Find some friends,” I say. “You need to help.”
Cigars, Scotch and a local bar was his strategy followed by golf, more Scotch and cigars.
Today my husband has more friends than I do.
Not ‘best’ friends. Not people you are tight with or give bear hugs to.
More like fist-bump people. (more…)